Monday, November 18, 2019

Margins

Afternoon Blueberry tea with real blueberries and whipped cinnamon honey.


Hello Ladies,

With past experience of a very busy holiday season, I have learned fatigue and physical exhaustion set in quickly if I don't keep to boundaries.  I have realized these boundaries are for me, not for me to impose on family.

So far in the past 45 days I have foreseen the upcoming months and said no to many social "extras" I was doing.  Like a lovely women's Bible study I attend when I can, and also a few women from church trying to plan a retreat day each month...even in November and December.

In saying no, my boundaries are pushed by almost everyone.  But I know it's best for me to be able to go through the season with joy in my heart and praising God for Jesus.

A week and a half after Christmas is my birthday, and last year I was so exhausted I didn't want to be around anyone for my birthday. It saddened me, but the mental and physical exhaustion was to great. I only wanted a quiet sleigh ride.  My blessed husband granted me that one wish. And it was beautiful.

This topic brings me back to women of years past.  The ones who I have read about, and who I have heard through those who have lived in the early 1900's.

Women did things with family, and guarded her energy and family time.  It was lovely to travel to spend time with family, but never at the expense of her health or her children. She didn't have the amount of media in her life as we do today, yet she had very clear boundaries.

If we recall for a moment, the times before cell phones and media, the planning that was involved in creating a lovely atmosphere at home.  And the big plans for Thanksgiving or Christmas dinner.

These are stressful enough, but adding in the media and texting that is expected now, and all the wonderful shows and gatherings,  it creates an added burden of stress.

As a women and mom, I find in my older years, I don't like to add too much to my schedule so I like to create Margins.  If you have never read the book, I highly recommend it.  It gave me insights and "permission" if you will to say No.  To hold to my reasons why, and to know God will bless me in my no.

In my journey with my health, years ago, I heard of a phrase which I still use today: Pigs at a trough.  Using this phrase helps me explain to others my no.  So if there are 3 pigs at a trough and a 4th comes up and pushes his way in, then one of the 3 gets pushed out.  That's just the way it is.

If I am managing meals and my home for my husband and I, managing my health with daily rests and watching the amount of activities I am involved in, I have a little time left for things for me.  If that time is filled with planning and grandchildren then I can't do many errands. If that time is filled with errands and a family gathering then I can't do additional family or social events.

Lets say I have space in my week for 1 major event.  Well, if my children and grandchildren get together, then I say no to lunch with a friend that week.

If there are only 24 hours in a day...we can't squeeze in 26 or 27 just by going faster or more meticulous planning.  We get 24 hours.

This holiday season from November and into December I am using Margins and the phrase "pigs at a trough" to help me navigate through so I can be joyful and grateful.  If I miss out on a few things then that is what I must do so I can remain happy and available for my husband, tend to our home and see my grandchildren.

Wishing you a peaceful November and planning season for Christmas.

Mrs. Peterson

Monday, November 04, 2019

Seasons in daily life

"Woman harvesting" graphic from Graphic Fairy


Hello Ladies~

For many years I have been interested in the seasons, as God gave to us.  Many Christian church's have changes through the seasons, and from hundred's of years ago this was because people were mostly an agricultural people.

Today, I see, for me, not only the changes in our seasonal church activities, but also as a woman. There are natural tendencies that happen in the fall.  Like "nesting". Or becoming more aware of the needs of the family to prepare for winter.

Reading things like homeschooling with Waldorf ways ( I didn't homeschool, but have found the rhythms of nature and celebrations according to the seasons appealing to me). Most any book you find from the 1800's on homemaking (free online with archive library.org) will show how women thought about the seasons, and how not only the food changes, but the crafting and clothing as well.

Also fascinating is how our daily life is this way.  We wake up, usually (unless you have a health project you manage) we wake with a bit of energy and it increases by noon, the high point of the day, only to feel that natural afternoon fatigue that asks us to stop for a bit and rest before we start winding down into evening meal preparations and the quiet of the evening.

I won't go into how screen time, smart phones, and blue lights affect this.  Please educate yourself though, it is proven to affect our brains.

So, back to seasons and rhythms of our day.  An article I read recently, I apologize I don't know the name of it, spoke of the daily activities being either more "masculine" which is the doing part, and more "feminine" which is the rest & nuture part.

Being a homemaker for almost 20 years, I can certainly see this in myself, but my body due to long time health limitations, requires the rest side.

I think for so many years I was/and sometimes still am, a "doer".  I can "do from sun up after prayer time, to the lights out at bed.

Now I need and long for the balance of the "feminine"  rest & nurture. I thrive when I do this.  And my moods and the transition through menopause is a bit easier.

When I was first a homemaker, after years of working, I read an amazing article that made sense. It was called "When Queens Ride by " Agnes Sligh Turnbull. The website this link is for is not the original place I saw it, but she did an amazing job putting it into a PDF to read.

It speaks of being more feminine.  We need this in our world.  Old red flannel pants - as a religious sister I know refers to the devil- does not want us, as women to be feminine, either by dress or by nature.

The drive to do, to be...takes us out of our natural desire to nurture.

I hope you will find enjoyment in the article, and look at balance your day and your seasons with what God has created. It's beautiful to see His hand in this when we abide.

Blessings to you,
Mrs. Peterson

Saturday, October 26, 2019

Max 2013-2019


We miss you Max.




"When we human beings let go and embrace the new, when we flow with the seasons, and merge with the same basic rhythm that tells the geese when to go, we hear things beyond sound, and feel things beyond touch, and a kind of serenity settles over our spirits."
~Jean Hersey, The Shape of a Year

Monday, October 07, 2019

In the kitchen today: trail mix

Soaking seeds and nuts for trail mix.
Hello Ladies~

Today is the day I am usually doing my weekly cleaning and any prep work for kitchen related things.  Like soaking nuts.  Since I need to make some trail mix for my husband, getting the nuts and seeds soaked so they can dry tonight was priority.

I don't soak cashews and I'm not a stickler for "soaking and sprouting everything" I just don't have the energy for that these days. But I do enjoy nuts and seeds soaked and dried.

This morning I got the pecans, sunflower seeds and pumpkin seeds soaking with salt. They will sit all day, at least 7 hours then I have a dehydrator they will go in tonight when we go to bed.

I have found this rhythm to be best for me since I don't like to listen to it in the daytime, even though it sits in the laundry room when I use it.

Most of the time they will be dry by tomorrow morning about 10 am, so about 12 - 14 hours.

Since the dehydrator is such low voltage, it doesn't use much electricity and I only use it for nuts these days.  I used to do much more dehydrating, but we have found the "rehydrated" carrots etc aren't something we care for. So, nuts it is.

Everyone that has tasted on of these soaked and dried pecan or pumpkin seed has said "wow! That's really good. I never would have thought it would make a difference." It does, and my husband enjoys it in the trail mix I make.

The nuts are purchased in bulk, and they do last me a long time.  Well worth the cost. And the time for me to make this trail mix...minutes.  Even the dehydrating prep.  The longest part of the process is washing off the drying screens. Otherwise, easy peasy.

Trail mix:

After dehydrating pecans, pumpkin seeds and sunflower seeds.

1C. Pecans
1C Cashews
1C. Sunflower seeds
1C Pumpkin seeds
1/2 C Raisins
1/3 C Chocolate chips (Mr. P likes them but says he doesn't want them to drown out the rest)

Mix in a large bowl and put into a container with a lid.  Portion out about 1/3c. is a serving.

As age has an affect on how much I eat these days, I don't eat but a few nuts every few days.  For me I gain weight with nuts and too many fruits.  Love them but we have an agreement: I will only eat a few and they won't affect my weight too much. ☺

Have a blessed day!


Thursday, October 03, 2019

In times of marriage distress - Helen Andelin's words

All of us, no matter what our walk of life is, have bumps in our marriage.  My grown children thought we never argued, until recently one of them was sharing her marital struggles. When I told them "Dad and I argue, just had one yesterday" she was overcome with shock and just couldn't believe it. She was comparing hers to what she "thought" ours was. Perception.

Our marriage is wonderful, thanks to many principles I have learned through the years, but the occasional bump still happens.

I am reminded of these wonderful words of the late Helen Andelin who wrote Fascinating Womanhood.  If you have ever wondered how to go about your distresses, I urge you to check it out.  It truly does work.

from Graphics Fairy
"I wish I could let every woman know how wonderful marriage can be, more wonderful than you can even imagine. It is like having a bit of heaven here on earth. And the amazing thing is that although it does not guarantee a life free of problems, the teachings of Fascinating Womanhood, when applied, keep love kindled and burning throughout all of the ups and downs of life. The fire of love burns out the dross and refuse. And the more difficult life is, the more purified and intense love in marriage can become.
If you have been in deep distress over your marriage situation, you may need some training in how to deal with suffering before you can live Fascinating Womanhood successfully. No man wants a depressed, down hearted, miserable wife, so you may have to do the impossible and learn to be happy in your own soul before you can apply Fascinating Womanhood to its fullest. There is a way that never fails, so please give careful attention: The way is to turn to your Heavenly Father for strength. He will never let you down. You can be happy in spite of your difficult situation, as in the lines taken from a comforting hymn, a hymn in which the Father is talking to you:


How Firm a Foundation
Beginning with verse 3:

Fear not, I am with thee, oh be not dismayed,
For I am thy God and will still give thee aid.
I’ll strengthen thee, bless thee and cause thee to stand,
Upheld by my righteous, omnipotent hand.


When through the deep waters I call thee to go,
The rivers of sorrow shall not thee o’erflow,
For I will be with thee, thy troubles to bless,
And sanctify to thee thy deepest distress.


When through fiery trials thy pathway shall lie,
My grace, all sufficient shall be thy supply.
The flame shall not hurt thee, I only design
Thy dross to consume and thy gold to refine.


The soul that on Jesus has leaned for repose
I will not, I cannot, desert to his foes;
That soul, though all hell shall endeavor to shake,
I’ll never, no never, no never forsake!

These lines are sobering but remember, once you are connected to the Spirit of God so you are happy in your own soul, it will be fun to live Fascinating Womanhood. After awhile the depressed feelings will leave, you will be walking on the clouds and your husband will adore you. But remember, you have to live it. You can’t just read it. You can’t just believe it. You have to live it, all of it. But if other women can live it and attain these heavenly rewards you can as well."

Have  a Blessed Day!

Monday, September 23, 2019

Autumn Blessings to you

Hello~

The changing of the seasons has always been close to my heart.  God made the seasons, each for it's own reason. Our bodies naturally live with that..even though we may not be aware of it.

Through the years and learning more about the seasons, agriculture, the Church and the seasons and my own experience of "nesting" each Fall, I have come to love the change.  Except Spring.  Yes I love the flowers and I love the colors and Easter especially, but after a long, cold, icy winter when Spring arrives in late March I am ready for flowers and green.  This doesn't usually happen until May.

So, I struggle with Spring. I guess it is a sort of impatience. I often struggle with that. God's timing not Dee's is my frequent phrase.

So today I decorated just a bit, changed my pillow covers on the couch (which I learned from a very easy tutorial on You Tube. Each took about 30 min. No zippers, no buttons. Love it!) changed my rug by my front door and still need to change my wreath.  Ooops.

I don't do the whole house now.  With just Mr. P and I and we live in the country, it's just enough to lift my spirits and show a change of seasons within our home too.

Sometimes I add God's naturally decorations which I love the most!

Tonight for dinner we had a pot roast, roasted potatoes and carrots, green beans and a very yummy Apple Crisp that is gluten free, and no refined sugar ( I use maple syrup). We actually had the Apple Crisp for an afternoon snack while we waited for dinner to cook.

I wish you Fall Blessings and may God provide you with decorations in your area to enjoy.

Homemade Apple Crisp and tea to welcome Fall.


Monday, September 16, 2019

A Birthday outing

Last week was my husband's birthday and the one thing he wanted was to spend the night somewhere different. We went to The Springs in Pagosa. It was amazing.

The Mother Spring was 144 degrees and from what we read about the history of the Springs, the Ute Indians used to go there...many, many many years ago...and found that a disease that had spread in their community was not being healed by any means they had. They prayed and danced and did a traditional fire to their god.  The next morning this main spring was bubbling in the place where the fire was. They approached it and all that went into it was healed. When settlers found it, there were tracks leading away from the spring so they later learned the story.

We were able to go in several springs , I only went in with my feet in a pool that was 97 degrees.  My husband tried several, with 104 being the most he could do.  There is one called the Lobster Pot...if you go in you get a t-shirt. Ha!

The springs run naturally and there was a study done in 2011 and the American Geologic group went in to find out how deep it really is.  They stopped after 1,000 feet! WOW!

People are not allowed in the Mother Spring due to the temperature.  Here are a few pictures for you to enjoy.

This is the entrance.

Mr P by the natural spring at the entrance. I don't think you can see it, but the cool morning air with the hot spring caused steam to rise.

Mrs P.  by the Mother Spring. One part of the story was to my right.

This little guy was warming himself on a rock as we walked across the street to breakfast.

Here, the springs naturally drip down to join the river that goes by.  Years of minerals formed and the tree branches as well have minerals.

Just fascinating.  God can sure create some amazing things.

I hope you enjoyed.  You can go to the website to learn more of the 24 pools around the property, there are also springs around Pagosa and all of these you don't have to pay to see. That's the best part!

Have a blessed day.