|This little guy let us back up to tack his picture. Only about 3 inches tall.|
Last Sunday my husband and I went for a drive. This wasn't your ordinary "let's go meander the country". We were going for a drive to provide an atmosphere to talk. There has been much on both of our plates, but as of late, it's been about life.
Where are we going? What interests do we still have together? What are our hopes for the last 10 - 20 yrs of our life?
Because as life goes on and we change, sometimes reconnecting with our spouse is vital.
Accepting humility as the path to truth and closeness, we talked about our fears, our "unknown" desires, and even a bit of frustrations.
This was all possible in a 4 1/2 hour drive after church. During lunch we were close enough to home that we made lunch to go and continued on.
During our 24 yrs of marriage driving for us has always been our main tool when we REALLY need to talk. It provides an atmosphere that we are sitting side by side facing the world....just as our wedding day. Rather than facing each other.
Have you ever tried to face someone, be vulnerable, and NOT be affected by their facial expressions, arms crossed or * Sigh* and lips puckered. It's REALLY hard to not be affected.
Yet, going for a drive is an amazing way to accomplish all the above without getting affected (too much) by the others affect displays.
Our drive ended about 3:30pm and we were holding hands and laughing. Something we haven't done together in a few weeks.
Did our problems get resolved, some of them. Most importantly, we were vulnerable to each other and we grew together in understanding our hopes, fears and concerns.
Some areas we are on the same sheet of music, but not all. And that's ok. It leaves room for another drive someday! :-)
Wishing you Christ's peace!